A quick stomp to remind everyone that magic, hope and dreams only come to those who seek actively seek them!
A quick stomp to remind everyone that magic, hope and dreams only come to those who seek actively seek them!
To make any kind of successful change in your life you must:
A: Have a mentor who knows the terrain you wish to travel. Following a mentor who doesn’t know the terrain is like the blind following the blind.
B: Understand the value of the change to be made. Unless you truly understand the value that making a change will bring to your life you won’t have any motivation to see the change through.
C: Be dedicated to making that change. Without dedication you’ll simply go with what’s easy and never attain the full benefits that a real change can bring you.
Those of you who have college degrees think back to your time in school. Go through your professors in your mind. Then ask yourself the following three questions:
1. How SUCCESSFUL were your professors in the industry they claimed to be educating you in?
If they weren’t extremely successful in the industry you wished to be in they didn’t know the terrain you wished to travel and it was simply the blind leading the blind.
A friend of mine who’s a practicing lawyer, who also teaches law and ethics at a college, hates his job and no matter how hard he tries he simply cannot advance in his law career the way he wishes to. He’s currently teaching students how to be successful lawyers. How successful do you think they’ll be if they’re being led by a guide who can’t thrive in the terrain through which he’s guiding them?
2. How many of your professors understood the value of change? Think for a minute about this one. Were the professors you had effectively growing the scope of their own experience, or were they teaching you about things that other people had done or discovered – or what they had done 20 years ago?
Teachers who reference experiences they see on TV, in a movies or in books do not themselves understand the value of change. Their experience is second hand. And when they teach it to you, it becomes third hand experience. What kind of events make a greater impact on you: ones that someone else tells you about third hand? Or ones that you experience yourself first hand?
3. Did your professors help you to become successful and actualized in the industry you wanted to thrive in?
Unless you are fully actualized in the area you wanted to become educated in—providing you actually recognized the value of the change you needed to make, and were willing to make that change—your degrees failed you.
Before you decide it’s time to go back to college or send your kids to college ask yourself: Did school make you successful and actualized the first time?
If your answer is yes, then why do you need to go back again?
If your answer is no, then why would you continue to sink your precious time and other resources into a system that already failed you once? If you bought a smart phone and found out that it wouldn’t connect to the web, didn’t text and you couldn’t make any calls on it, would you go just go back to the mobile store and buy another one?
The alternative to college
1. Is there a way you can find a mentor who has already thrived or is thriving in the terrain you wish to cross to act as a guide for you?
Student loans are a liability. They pick your pockets before you ever get a chance to fill them for yourself. Working with a successful mentor who is willing to guide you in exchange for equal value compensation is a way to avoid this trap. So ask yourself: What can you do to bring value to a mentor’s life that is an equal exchange for his acting as your Sherpa?
2. Until you truly understand the value that such changes will make in your life you’re likely to lack real motivation.
This means understanding that you really can become the person you always wished to be: first hand. That means you have to give up vicarious living. It’s a lot more work and comes with greater responsibility. The value: you will become the real deal, empowered, actualized, authentic and able to act as guide to others. It’s much harder to be a real boy than a wooden one: just ask Pinocchio. Still he knew it was worth it in the end.
3. College means very little effort and work. You read a few books, sit in a lecture, take some tests. But the price is enormous. It means hungering for the approval of teachers and the constant need for reassurance and grades. That need for approval and acceptance will spill over into your relationships and effect them. It also means selling off thousands of hours of your precious time to pay for a degree that comes with no guarantees and is more like a rigged card game than a path to living a full and prosperous life.
Living life first hand demands constant effort and growth. It demands dedicating to yourself, the well being of your family and friends. It means keeping your oaths and contracts the way the old knights did. But the fruit that bears in independence, true acceptance and self satisfaction outweigh anything that you could ever get from a grade-point average.
Now, before you think that college is a measure of excellence consider this: if a college flunks you, they lose your money. If they lose your money, they can’t stay in business. So, it’s in their best interest to make sure you pass. No matter what you learn or don’t learn; who you are or want to be. It doesn’t matter. All that matters is that your tuition keeps coming in. For as long as they can get it, and during as many times in of your life as they can manage it.
Yesterday I posted a tweet on Twitter and Facebook that caused quite a stir. Some of you saw it and responded appreciatively. Others tried to throw stones at it with weak arguments and platitudes. In fact, I don’t know that I’ve ever gotten so much response from a tweet before. It was: What if it’s the “dark” that’s trying to save you, and the “light” that’s keeping you powerless and immobilized?
Of those who tried to derail the concept there was a particular white-lighter who tried to take some sort of moral high ground and steal the Gravestomper’s authority for her own. She responded to my statement by tweeting: “Life is rarely so clearly delineated. Balance must be found.”
It’s key that you pay attention here. This is very important. On the surface this looks benign. Even “good” or “wise”. After all, the New Age has been telling us for years now how we all need to be balanced. Balance is good, isn’t it? We all need to be in balance don’t we? And for most of us that sounds like a great thing. We have so much work, so much responsibility, so much fear in our lives that to balance it all with some laughter, fun, and joy would be a nice change.
But what keeps us from having that actual balance?
I’ll tell you. It’s the white-light mentality. The one that tells us all paths are the same and they all lead us, in the end, to love. The one that starts with us being “good people”. The one which is waiting there for us to chastise us every time we have an “impure”, “wrathful” or “unbalanced” thought. The one that teaches us to give our personal power away to guilt and shame. That tries to keep everyone of us in line each and every time we assert our true, active selves and our creativity. It masks itself as liberated, free and enlightened but in actuality it is as bound, ignorant and manipulative as the religion of our parents.
That in mind, let’s take a good look our white-lighter’s statement: “Life is rarely so clearly delineated. Balance must be found.”
What does this really mean? That word ‘Balance’ is what we, in hypnosis, call a Nominalization. It’s a word that has no meaning but the one the listener assigns to it. Nominalizations are building blocks of something we call ‘Guru Speak’. It’s a hypnotic language that the few really popular Gurus, White-lighters and “Secret” folks use to get followers. They use words and phrases that have no concrete, practical meaning to create trance states and feelings of longing and incompleteness that they then take advantage of.
On the surface what they say sounds good because it’s usually tied to something that suggests being a “good person”. And everyone wants to be a good person, right? But when you start to look more closely at anything they say you begin to see that their statements are actually hollow. The only meaning that can be derived from any of their words are those that the audience assigns to them.
They consistently use words like Love. Balance. Healing. Wholeness. Oneness. Nature. Consciousness. Purity. Source. Godhead. None of those words really mean anything until you assign your personal experiences to them. Then they sound terribly profound. And whenever you ask one of these guys what any of those words actually means, they turn it around on you by saying: “What do YOU think it means?
Why do they do that? Because they know what they are saying means nothing and if they turn it back on you, you will A) feel insecure that you don’t have the enlightened answers they do and B) you will drag an appropriate desire or wound from your life and attach it to the word, find personal meaning in it, and then beg them for more of their wisdom. It’s a win-win situation for them
See, the reason that white-lighter chose to toss her comment about balance at me wasn’t because she wanted to open up a dialogue. Her response had little to do with knowledge or wisdom. It was an attempt to chastise me for taking a stand.
My statement was clear: What if it’s the “dark” that’s trying to save you, and the “light” that’s keeping you powerless and immobilized? The ‘light’ here means: the white-light mentality. While ‘dark’ indicates those of us who are advocating facing fears, taking action, and wrath when necessary. Her response was an attempt to nullify the concept I put out there because it incited a change in view. A challenge. A dare. Fact is—people were excited by my statement. They were tantalized, intrigued and even a bit titillated to think that maybe plunging into the darker parts of themselves, their thoughts and their lives could set them free from suffering.
But white-lighters are uncomfortable with such assertions. They are uncomfortable with people who take action. Who challenge others. Who encourage people to face their fears. Who support people who get out there and go after their dreams. Who assert anything but love and sitting immobilized on a cushion.
Why? Because when you are immobilized on a cushion you can’t rise up against them. When they are standing above you and your eyes are closed they own you. When you believe that everything is supposed to be love you castrate yourself with guilt every time you want to crush one of these love-and-light manipulators to dust. And if action, self-actualization, risk and true wisdom based on direct experience are the codes that people are living by then they will have to actually learn how to do something of value. And that is the last thing any of them want to do. Because—and they know this—they are empty inside. Their words are empty. Their actions are empty. Their wealth is empty and their wisdom is empty.
So when this white-lighter saw the statement I posted was wrathful, risky and a bit frightening she tossed one of the accepted nominalizations at me in an attempt to nullify it, thereby justifying her discomfort with the concept. “Life is rarely so clearly delineated. Balance must be found,” she said. And that way she sounded like a good person, wise and poised. After all, who would dare disagree with that? It’s Balance after all. Right? Wrong. Because there is no potency that follows a statement such as hers. Only flaccid self-analysis.
When I refused to accept her reality she did what these white-lighters always do. And I will tell you this now, so that you can recognize it when they do it to you. They have some common responses they use when you challenge them and begin to show that their words are meaningless, their actions reprehensible, their philosophies barbaric and insane. They will:
1) Say that you are twisting and skewing their words, suggesting that they possess the pure, good and objective truth and you are a Devil who is using some form of evil magic to distort that truth. They’ll forget that they are the ones choosing their own words, but since they refuse to take responsibility for their lives they are, of course, going to blame YOU for their lack of coherency.
2) Try to give you parental scolding when you assert yourself confidently. When you refuse to be submissive they will suggest that you “expect people to follow you blindly without questioning your will.” What they always fail to realize, however, is that it was really your refusal to accept their attempts to control your will that they found so distasteful to begin with.
3) Suggest they possess the true Dharma or teachings and you just are too wicked to recognize it.
4) Accuse you of being selfish for wanting to live a successful, active, profitable and fully actualized life. If you were pure you would be poor and sitting on a meditation cushion emitting love for all beings.
5) Try to inflict guilt on you by suggesting that their lack of success comes from a bad bit of luck. Meanwhile they try to bind you to them by teaching you that “good people” give everything they’ve got to those less fortunate.
6) Inflict their dysfunction on you, undermine you and give you criticism aimed at shaking your self-confidence all the while talking about how “All is Love”. They will justify their shitty behavior by saying things like: “I’m opinionated. You’re just going to have to deal with it.” Assuming that you will be bound by the code of being a “good person” who wouldn’t dare say anything unkind to another who is just expressing her free will. But you do NOT have to deal with it. In fact, it is your right to throw their dysfunction back on them and let them see the horrible monsters they really are. When you do this, they will show their true colors by trying to “teach you a lesson”. Because they are really cowards, they will enlist their friends to try and destroy you. (This particular white lighter began asking her twitter friends if they’d like to show up on my door step and teach me what Dark really meant. She asserted that they could be the true champions of White Light when they finally destroyed me. In the end, she dissolved into a public puddle of her own victimhood.)
7) Tell you there is no such thing as evil in one breath, while paradoxically telling you in the next to embrace only ‘love and light’ so that they can feed, unfettered, on you and your resources.
8) Teach you the dark is “evil” because they know in it lies the secrets that will release you from their constant control over you.
The white-lighter attempted to drive me thru guilt and shame. The guilt and shame of forgetting to include the importance of being a “good person” in my statement.
Why is that so powerful an attack? Because we have all been instilled with the guilt inducing victimhood of or parents religions which taught us if we were not good we would be punished. If we talked back to our parents we would be slapped in the mouth. If we touched ourselves we would get sick. If we fucked who we chose to fuck when and how we chose to fuck them we would be struck down by an angry god. If we did not go to school we would be homeless. If we did not lash ourselves to those poor unfortunates who were victims of cruel fate and take care of them wholly we would spend an eternally frying in hell. If we did what we were talented at rather than working a job we hated like everyone else we were selfish.
The true underlying philosophy of the white lighter can be summed up succinctly in one statement: “How come you?”
And you know what the common, underlying theme is in all of these statements? Entitlement. They feel that just because they show up to the party they get to be the belle of the ball. That everyone should flock to them, appreciate, cherish and respect them just because they are here and they tell everyone in a hundred different ways what good people they are. Their philosophy is sick with this sort of bullshit:
Well I got news for you, guys:
So, let me end this where I began, reaffirminig that The Gravestomper project is about liberating people from suffering. Getting them to get out there and live their lives fully. It’s about self-actualization.
People are being crushed by guilt and shame, false teachers and the false belief that they have to sublimate their true selves to someone else’s definition of what a good person is.
The white light path will neuter you, drain you and finally, kill you. It’s all about sucking the vitality from your life. It’s full of platitudes, users and entitlement mentality. If it’s yours and it sparkles they will steal it because it’s the only thing they know.
Now, I’ll ask you again: What if it’s the “dark” that’s trying to save you, and the “light” that’s keeping you powerless and immobilized?